G is for "Gay"

well what in the heck did you think it was going to be for, "giraffe"?

as many gay men and women will tell you, i haven't always been comfortable with my sexuality. i've always sort of known i was different, but i struggled a lot with that because i was raised in a very abusive, catholic, extremist home by my father's parents.

i was made to suffer greatly for being "queer like my uncle Michael" who passed away before i was born.

it wasn't until many years later when i was a grown man that i learned that Michael was also tortured for his sexuality and committed suicide. but i pulled through. for a while there i didn't really consider myself anything. it was just easier that way. but over the years i have come to accept who i am and i feel, dare i say, liberated!

in this day and age of Jerry Springer, all kinds of crazy reality shows, sex tapes, and umm...Charlie Sheen, you would think that people would be SO over the "gay" thing. yet, i still find myself dealing with the "hate" and having to defend my rights as a human being. and i AM a human being. gay is not a species!

lets face it, if you want to get down to the dirty dirty it's really about what hole i choose to put my dick in. yeah, i said it!

before i met my partner, i had never even entertained the idea of marriage. i wholeheartedly supported the notion that anyone who so wanted to be ball and chained should have at it, but it wasn't for me! now that i am getting older and a bit more mature (stop laughing!) i can actually see getting married as a commitment i would like to make.

gay marriage is definitely a hot button topic. sadly, i have had to remove a few people from my life because of it. i generally try to avoid conflict, but i cannot sit quietly by while someone tells me that my wanting to settle down with one partner, have a home and a life together is "ok" as long as god forbid, we don't want to get married! because "GOD SAYS IT'S WRONG".

*sigh* fine. if you don't support gay marriage, i am a very open and intelligent person who is willing to have a civil conversation with you about it, but if you come at me wearing cotton and denim or a rayon/ polyester blend (reference to Leviticus 19:19..."do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material") DO NOT tell me that the reason why gays should not be married is because it is in the bible!! at least be HONEST and tell me that you personally have a problem with it because you think it's strange, or weird, or you don't understand it. at least then i could respect you for that because have you seen some of the things that are written in the bible?? why is it that everything else in there is open to the evolution of modern times except this?

if you are so damn concerned about following the bible to the letter, then why are people out there having sex without being married?!?!? why isn't anybody out there VOTING on that?!?

ugh, ya'll make my as hurt.

but of course, there is the positive. i've recently become involved in supporting the "It Gets Better" project. the IGB project, is a campaign for LGBT teens who feel, alone, outcast, bullied, and abused for simply being who they are...gay. it is a place for inspirational videos, literature, and recourses to help those who feel like they have no where else to turn.

with love, encouragement, and support it lets young LGBT know that there is a future, and yeah, it does get better! :)

a video message from Dan and Terry, creators of the It Gets Better project